to graze or cut deeply: knives & forks

April 7, 2017

Someone cuts you off on the turnpike, the expressway, the highway or the byway.

Someone promises you something but doesn’t deliver.

Someone leaves integrity at the door.

Someone d, e or f.

These realities can either graze or cut deeply, the knife entering with various levels of pain. The reaction may be to turn that around, to fight, to never let it rest. If it’s a matter of personal #integrity, then there is really no choice. Go knife to knife if need be.

But none of us can control the actions of other people, nor should we. If that’s the way they drive, so be it; get out of the way and drive defensively. If they make their way in the world with broken promises, so be it; get out of the way and discontinue contact. If they conduct themselves in underhanded ways, so be it; get out of the way and don’t do business with them.

We are not beholden to other people; we have #choices. The daily decisions we make are our own. Everyone confronts forks in the road. If we allow ourselves to be dragged down by unsupportive people, by less-than-favorable circumstances, by personal disappointments, we alone are to blame. That Rupert Murdoch, owner of The Wall Street Journal and Fox News Channel, actively dislikes Mitt Romney and wants no part in the latter’s possible presidential run in 2016 should be taken for what it is; whether for a decision to run for president or to apply for a particular job or a thousand other decision-based ‘or’s, any commitment made with integrity, discipline and conviction should be pursued regardless of the (inevitable) obstacles. (For the record, this writer does not support a Mitt Romney presidential run.)

It’s how we react that reveals the key: Treat each setback as a choice, as road A or B, either to remain positive whatever the short-term consequences or to slosh through the mud, no better than those who wronged us at the outset.

Make the positive turn, the proactive choice. Doing so represents true empowerment.